Act IV:
The Alchemy of Letting Go
Burning Bridges and Building Altars:
The Phoenix Era
The doom of becoming a single mom like my mother felt like failure.
Leaving my marriage wasn’t failure — it was soul alchemy.
Divorce became the fire that destroyed me and everything I thought I knew.
I had known I would have to burn it all down to rise during my Saturn return...
But I am a stubborn Girlie!
My soft heart and abandonment wounding couldn't do it by choice.
So life and circumstance — aka God — did for me what I could not do for myself.
Everything and everyone: torn from or burned out of my life like a wildfire.
And honey, I had asked for it.
That six month bleed broke me so wholly I unintentionally manifested circumstances
into my reality that would hurt me but ultimately heal me;
I didn't understand what I had asked for.
So when I watched it all come to fruition years later, I had only myself to blame... or thank.
My ex-husband’s new love? A mirror: ‘You’ve outgrown this story.
Let them go. And pray for their happiness.' So I did. And I still do.
The pain of being so easily replaced served as a reminder it was never about being unworthy.
It was the sad truth that I had created a life where I was replaceable when I am in fact priceless.
It wasn't unworthiness; it was wounding and it was only partly my fault.
The searing wounds of rejection ripped me apart at the seams; and not just from my husband.
I lost a network of friendships and was forced to close the door on familial ties in the process.
I felt shame, grief and anger it would take me years to fully process.
My children's tears gutted me: ‘Why can’t we be a family?’
They were angry I left and couldn't fully understand the why;
neither could I.
I made new vows to myself and to them.
They’d inherit collaboration, not chaos.
They’d never witness the martyrdom and abuse I’d endured.
I scripted a future my logical mind called delusional:
A reality where coparenting peace is the standard;
a bond so healed, it's radiant with a different kind of love.
A home for my kids steeped in safety, my children’s laughter echoing alongside my own.
Not "stable"; sacred.
A reality where my kids inherit cycles of abundance, not lack.
Today, my kids see their parents laugh, collaborate, respect —
no silent wars, no coiled rage.
That’s the inheritance I’m gifting them.
Still, I would be tested. Months of $0 income.
Breakdowns of my car, myself and my self esteem.
Nights sobbing over my failed life.
Returning to versions of myself I swore I'd never revisit.
I continued to look for the miracles in the mess.
I told myself I am healing trauma in real time; ancestral and personal.
I am cutting cords and burning contracts back through generations.
I vowed to be the cycle-breaker; I had to put my money where my mouth is.
I tapped. Breathed. Prayed. Journaled. Scripted. Screamed. Wailed.
Laughed. Danced. Bled. Died a million tiny deaths.
Rose. Healed. I transformed.
I Declared: ‘My lineage’s scarcity dies with me.’
I studied the mastery of manifestation, quantum physics,
the law of assumption, attraction and receptivity.
I worked with the cycles of the moon, celestial events and my own cycles to shift my reality.
I purged every limiting belief, doubt, negative thought, resentment, pattern, shame and so on.
I broke soul ties and dug out the roots of ancestral curses and I lit the match.